Your Legacy

I look back on past relationships and wonder why the hell I stuck around so damn long! This is not to say they were all horrific, but none of them were healthy either. However I must admit that without all the failures I wouldn't have been able to appreciate the great person I am with now. And I certainly wouldn't have had all the lessons I learnt from the past.

The positive side of this, is that I now know exactly what I want out of a partner. I also know what I am comfortable with and what I am not willing to tolerate. I have my morals set out more clearly and I have set my standards higher, because I now know it IS possible to find someone who will respect my beliefs, wishes and boundaries.

There is an unpleasant side that raises it's nasty head sometimes. This is the fact that unfortunately, my partner now has to deal with all the insecurities that I built up from being with the people. Now he is 'suffering' for all the damage inflicted upon me in previous relationships. I find this so unfair on him, and I often feel bad for the insecurities that I carry around in a heavy duffel bag wherever I roam, but shaking that extra weight is the hardest diet a girl will ever face.

But each time an issue raises, if it's trust, loyalty, affection, time, priorities, I try my best to remember that HE is not the one who put those doubts in my head and carved them into my personality. I don't believe that we HAVE to carry around all the traits that we are given by others. The same applies for family streaks inherited.

You have the choice to create your own legacy, and although you may never be perfect, you can be YOUR own perfect.